I love reading, and recently read a tale that irritated me a little about the stereotypes on feminine qualities.
“Have you ever noticed… how women with a strong maternal instinct tend to lose other aspects of their personalities upon having a child? Either from within herself or from without, I truly know not which, she appears to feel some kind of threat against her very right to be a mother, should she engage in any activity perceived as [non-maternal]. She forgoes opportunities for professional advancement and denies her sexuality, dressing herself primly, sometimes even matching her own clothing to that of her children. Eventually opportunities that are sexual or professional diminish, and she becomes one dimensional and dull to anyone out of diapers.”
“Then, of course, there is the woman who chooses the professional lifestyle. Her peers are not as tolerant as those of the mother. She is in dangerous territory and cannot yield to the less sophisticated of her natural tendencies, lest she be deemed “unprofessional” and lose all that she has worked so hard for. She must be very careful how she presents herself and how she behaves. If she has children, she seems constantly weighed down by guilt, for to remain successful in her career it is necessary to overcome those maternal instincts that might be considered weak and unprofessional by her contemporaries.”
Perspective on Feminine Qualities
By no means should you ever consider me a feminist. The activists that believe women should always stand equal to men seem stupid and near sighted. A woman, with her natural abilities and strengths never need settle for a man’s place. In other words, stop shooting at the trees and aim for the stars. But back to my original point.
Acting like a classy lady hardly requires that you give up everything that defines your personality. I often find solace in taking my handgun to the range, and putting any guy next to me to shame. It seems especially fun when he brought a date with him, she usually ends up watching me instead. When my car needs service, I prefer to Google it and try it on my own. If I can drive it, then I should full well know how to fix it.
Likewise, for dinner you have the ability and the right to dress up as much as you like. Use every bit of your charm and enjoy the admiration of so many people around you. That hardly means go on a date for the sole purpose of making your partner jealous. Just remind them why they should treat you well.
Your gender literally only defines your reproductive system and hormone levels. Everything else depends on you. If you have any insight on feminine qualities, please leave them in the comments below.
I grew up in Colonia Juarez, Chihuahua, México, where people either owned cattle ranches or fruit orchards. Much of my work ethic came from working on Rancho La Mesa (my family’s ranch). That ranch also sparked what grew into my wild imagination. I read somewhere that you should write the story you want to read, and that stuck with me. My writing began in sixth grade, around the time I began learning to type.